When asked to describe herself, Daphne Wayans will tell you she’s her children’s mom – their happiness her calling, their well-being her mission, their pain her own, and their love her life. Her focus on family is impossible to overstate and immeasurably unyielding. She is a mother. And she wouldn’t have it any other way. As the ex-wife of Hollywood mogul Keenen Ivory Wayans, and close-knit friend for over 20 years of Nicole Murphy (ex-wife of Eddie Murphy) and Sheree Fletcher (ex-wife of Will Smith), Daphne is a natural fit for the season-2 cast of VH1’s “Hollywood Exes.”
I caught-up with Daphne to get her opinion about the show, the natural hair movement, and how she maintains her youthful glow.
Mz Mahogany: In September, VH1 announced you would be joining the cast of Hollywood Exes as one the newest cast members for season 2. How did you land the spot?
Daphne: I was one of the original cast members when they pitched the show. We all went to pitch to about eight networks. In the end, I turned it down because I had cold feet. I wasn’t interested in losing my anonymity. I worked so hard to maintain a secret and quiet life. I also didn’t like the reputation reality TV was getting at the time.
Mz Mahogany: What finally changed your mind?
Daphne: I changed my mind because I didn’t like how friendships were being portrayed on reality TV. I haven’t watched too many shows, but I know enough. It seems so fake. I’ve been friends with Sheree and Nicole for two decades. I think of them as sisters.
Mz Mahogany: Do you think your relationships with them will change on reality TV?
Daphne: Not at all. If anything, we will create stronger bonds.
Mz Mahogany: In case our readers didn’t know, you are the ex of Keenen Ivory Wayans. Did he have any reservations about you doing the show?
Daphne: I think we all have reservations. Your mouth is the script and the edit button. It took me a whole season to realize that.
Mz Mahogany: How is your relationship with him now?
Daphne: He’s my best friend, my baby-daddy, my ex-husband and neighbor! He’s lives about 5 houses down. We have a great relationship.
Mz Mahogany: Do you think you will re-marry?
Daphne: Oh yes! I definitely want to get married again.
Mz Mahogany: In a perfect world, where you can pick and choose, which celebrity would you date?
Daphne: I don’t know. But who’s to say it will be a celebrity? Maybe an artist. Can you believe I don’t own a TV?
Mz Mahogany: No TV? How do you live?
Daphne: I haven’t had the need for one.
Mz Mahogany: Very interesting, I don’t know what I would do without it. When the show airs do you think you will tune in to watch?
Daphne: Probably not. You know once it’s done, it’s done.
Mz Mahogany: Will there be any surprises about you on the show?
Daphne: I think everything is a surprise. No one really knows me. So I think people will get to see me on the show.
Mz Mahogany: What were you doing career wise before filming Hollywood Exes?
Daphne: I was a “career wife/mom.” I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I know some may frown upon it, but that’s what I’ve always done. I love being a mom to my children.
Mz Mahogany: Are you nervous to work for the first time?
Daphne: Well, I’m cheating. This is more like hanging with my friends all day. Sure, there’s the business aspect of it, being certain places on time and deadlines, but it’s fun.
Mz Mahogany: Mz Mahogany: Is this a stepping-stone into an acting career?
Daphne: I haven’t thought about it. I want to do something that changes lives. I guess acting is a possibility.
Mz Mahogany: Ok so lets talk beauty and hair…
Daphne: This is embarrassing; I don’t spend a lot of time pampering myself. I spend about 20-30 minutes on me. I don’t want to spend time thinking about my hair. Having kids and being a mom leaves so little time for me. I used to have long, poodle hair. I cut it off the day after I got married.
Mz Mahogany: Is your hair permed or natural?
Daphne: I am natural. I’ve always been natural, even when it was long.
Mz Mahogany: What are you putting in your hair to keep it curly, shiny, and healthy?
Daphne: I use a hair butter from Carols Daughter and I also use KeraCare. I just use a dime size and I’m done in minutes. Just wash and go.
Mz Mahogany: How do you deal with wet hair in the winter months being you are a Wash N’ Go gal?
Daphne: Well, it’s not really cold in L.A., and short hair doesn’t take too long to dry.
Mz Mahogany: Do you encourage your daughters to be natural or was that their decision?
Daphne: My daughters are natural, but use a flat iron. I’m so confused sometimes of what people consider natural. But I tell them “You are not your hair; you are the same person whether your hair is short, long, curly or straight”. Jada Pinkett Smith is one of my good friends and I was just talking to her today. We were talking about how Willow gets so much attention because of her hair. It’s just hair! When she died it green – I wasn’t expecting that – but again, that it is just her embracing her hair and showing her creativity.
Mz Mahogany: Would you have the same reaction with your kids?
Daphne: Sure. I encourage them to be themselves.
Mz Mahogany: What products are you using on your face?
Daphne: I use Dr. Bronner’s soap and baking soda. I take the soap and mix it with the baking soda and it serves as an exfoliate. I don’t have the need to wear much makeup. I’m a natural person by heart. I use plant-based perfumes. There’s something about the chemicals in perfumes that drive me crazy.
Mz Mahogany: Now that you are filming, I’m sure your wearing more make-up than you usually do. Have you noticed any breakouts?
Daphne: I haven’t actually. I’ve used Yes To Cucumber facial wipes, which helps wipe the makeup off.
Mz Mahogany: Having a well balanced diet contributes to healthy skin. Can you tell me about your diet?
Daphne: I eat macrobiotic and vegan. For the most part, I eat a vegetarian diet. I don’t eat animal because I just don’t like it. It’s not for me, taste-wise. I pretty much try to maintain a plant-based diet.
Mz Mahogany: What’s your beauty secret?
Daphne: It’s going to sound really corny. Good Loving! I know you want me to tell you something topical you put on, but I really think good loving is it. Plus, like I said, I’m a natural person by heart. If you can squeeze a flower and get the scent out of it, I would use it. I love aromatherapy. Is that a beauty secret?
Mz Mahogany: It sure is!
Daphne: Well then, today I’m wearing geranium, it’s great for the adrenal glands. I wore lavender yesterday; it’s great for the immune system and increases T-cells. Everyone feels healthy when I’m around. Laughing is also another beauty secret. I was raised by comedians, so I’m proud of my laugh lines. I use sea-salt toothpaste and most herbal things that are great for the mouth.
Mz Mahogany: Wow, you are natural all-around!
Daphne: I know, it’s so corny. I don’t know what’s at the beauty counter because I’m not a mall girl.
Mz Mahogany: Speaking of the mall, what’s your take on fashion? Any favorite designers?
Daphne: I was thinking about over consumerism and how we run out and get new stuff all the time. I ran into this lady who told me she gets recycled clothes, but I will admit, that’s my weakness. I am addicted to the fashion magazines. I love snake print fashion. I actually just got one.
Mz Mahogany: A live snake?
Daphne: Yes. She’s cute.
Mz Mahogany: Before we wrap up, Can you tell me if you are sponsoring any charities?
Daphne: I’m on the board of the New Village Learning Academy. The New Village Leadership Academy is dedicated to the cultivation of powerful, self-educating leaders – men and women of virtue, wisdom and courage. I love it so much and it makes me so happy. I try to support charities that I love.
Thanks for the interview